Many women all have one burning question that they wish they could get a straight answer to. They love a man, they feel he’s their future life partner but he’s wary when it comes to the issue of commitment. Ideas for getting a man to commit are readily available but the problem is which approach actually works? If you’ve been devoted to your boyfriend for some time and the ultimate question of whether you’ll marry him has never come up, you really do need to address it. Too many women in your position go years expecting a proposal only to discover that they man they love isn’t the marrying kind. Your future is in your own hands and if you want your boyfriend to eventually be your husband you need to start taking steps to ensure that happens.
Don’t Continually Talk About Commitment with Him
One major mistake that many women make when they are yearning for a more committed relationship is they talk about it with the man of their dreams at every opportunity. Obviously if you love a man you want him to see his future with you. However, if you push a man to commit on an almost daily basis it’s likely going to result in him pulling back out of sheer frustration.
If you’ve been guilty of this type of behavior, it’s important that you make a marked effort to change. The best advice you can follow is to stop talking about commitment altogether for a time. Even though you may struggle with this and you may worry that he’ll assume you’re not interested in getting married, you have to make a strong effort to give up the conversations in which you push him towards committing.
It won’t take your man long to realize that you’ve stopped focusing on commitment and that will help your effort in two ways. First and foremost, it will ensure that he’ll relax. He’s no longer going to feel that he has to be on guard about the commitment and about coming up with reasons for why he’s not ready. Secondly, he’ll begin to wonder if you’ve decided that committing to him isn’t what you want anymore. In a man’s mind that may translate to you wanting to explore other avenues for your future. That alone may be enough to push him into proposing out of fear of losing you.
Stop Trying to Prove that You’re His Perfect Future Wife
As women we often go overboard when it comes to pleasing the man we love. We believe that by doing everything and anything we can for him that he’ll instantly want to spend his life with us. Unfortunately, men don’t really make the same connections that we do. Your man isn’t going to drop to one knee and demand you be his wife if you cook him delicious meals each night, pick up his dry cleaning and do his laundry. In fact, without even realizing it he may become dependent on the tasks you do without becoming emotionally dependent on you.
Men aren’t that interested in women who cater to them. Naturally, like all individuals, men enjoy when the woman they are dating wants to take care of them. There’s a fine line between being kind and doing too much. If you feel that you contribute much more to the relationship than your boyfriend does, that’s an unbalanced dynamic that may hinder your dream of becoming his wife.
Try and control how much you do for him on a daily basis. Don’t lose sight of the fact that this man isn’t making any real effort to ensure you become his life partner. That means that he still views himself as single and that translates into him having to shoulder the burdens that come with that. In other words, if he’s going to continue to see himself as a man who doesn’t want a commitment, then he should be taking care of his own needs including cooking for himself, tidying his place and making his own dinner. Those things aren’t your responsibility as his girlfriend. Save those generous offerings for when you become his wife.
Explore Your Life on Your Own
Too many women make the tragic mistake of putting their life goals on hold while they patiently wait for their boyfriend to commit. If you want to further your education so you can get a better job, do that now. Don’t worry that your man will see your education pursuit as a financial burden. You must be focused on what is best for you, not necessarily what is best for the two of you as a couple.
If you two aren’t living together at this point, don’t push the idea again. Instead, paint your apartment a new color or purchase some new furniture. This will silently suggest to your boyfriend that you’re planning for the future in your own place and that sends him a very clear message that you’re not seeing him as a potential roommate in the near future. Small acts such as though will impact your boyfriend more than you know. They just may jolt him into realizing that unless he takes some steps towards commitment, you may decide that the single life is really what you need.